“Will you be my bridesmaid?!?” After the shrieks of excitement fade, a horrible feeling in the pit of your stomach grows as you realize you don’t have the finances to participate as you feel you should. Do you decline altogether?
Independence is a natural desire of our hearts. But what if you are dependent on your parents financially? How do you maneuver the careful balance of respecting their influence without sacrificing your life's desires?
1. Include your parents in your desire for independence. Ask for their guidance and exercise a grateful heart for all they do for you.
Island vacations. Expensive dinners. Quick weekend getaways. Sounds fun, right? But what if your bank account doesn’t match that of your friends? Try some of these ideas when seeking ways to spend time together.
1. Progressive dinner parties. This is a fantastic way to allow everyone to be in control of how much they spend during your gathering. You may choose to find budget-friendly appetizers while some of your friends make expensive masterpieces.
Feeling a tug to do something more meaningful on your spring break than relax on a beach? Here are a few things to consider:
1. What is my purpose? Not your purpose in life – but the purpose behind your spring break plans. Are you looking to leave your life behind and R-E-L-A-X? Are you finding a way to glorify God in your plans? You can absolutely glorify God in relaxation – though the path to questionable decisions often begins with idle time.
Bells are ringing. The trees are glistening. Everything is covered in snow. All seems right with the world during the Christmas season. But what if your friend or family member is missing out on the best part of Christmas – Christ? Here are a few ideas to help bring them back to church during this special time.
1. Pray. Ask God to give you the words to reach their hearts. Pray for an opening to have a caring, spirit-filled conversation with all judgments left outside.
My brother asked me why, if religion is so great, he hears and sees so many uncharitable comments from religious people. What do I say?
This is a tough issue – your brother recognizes the hypocrisy in the sinful actions of Christians who claim to act righteously. • Remind him that Christians are human, and nobody is perfect. We all sin, despite our best efforts not to. We make uncharitable comments and do unkind things to those around us, just like everybody else. That doesn’t excuse our behavior, but we have to acknowledge that we are all sinners.
Facebook, Instagram, Twitter … social media are everywhere! Used as a tool to improve our connections, they can benefit our relationships. However, they can also be a time thief that leaves us feeling terrible if we’re not careful. Here are a few ways to make sure they enhance, not hinder.
1. Claim control. Spend time catching up with people and things that leave you feeling connected with those you care about. Don’t get lost in the rabbit hole of everything else going on with people you don’t know well or at all. Set a time limit to keep yourself accountable.
Your heart is heavy with the needs of your friends. Their marriage is suffering and you want to help – but where do you begin?
1. Ask what they need. Ask what kind of support they’d like – if any. They may not be ready. Don’t jump in before asking where they need you.
When you and your parents disagree about what you should study in college (and they are helping to pay for it), both sides need to make a conscious effort to be respectful and truly listen to the other. Consider this:
As parents, it is in the job description to care about the future of their children – to do everything they can to help you become successful. Realize their desires and concerns are rooted in the great love they have for you.
Hallelujah! You have money in the bank and an itch to spend it. As a young individual with no real obligations or financial responsibilities to speak of, this is a position most people would envy. However, before you blow your funds on a fabulous vacation, let’s examine some other options.
1. Build a solid savings account. I know, that sounds boring. BUT – those financial responsibilities will be here before you know it and you will be happy you created some breathing room for yourself.