- Make your marriage your #1 priority. Your marriage should be more important to you than advancing your career, increasing your wealth, beautifying your home, enjoying your pastimes, having fun with your friends or even volunteering at your church. The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships, and your most important relationship is the one with your spouse.
What’s more important than happiness? Believe it or not – nothing! The catechism declares that God has embedded the longing for happiness in every human heart. St. Augustine, an expert on happiness, wrote: “We all want to live happily; in the whole human race there is no one who does not assent to this proposition, even before it is fully articulated.” Thomas Aquinas adds: “Man cannot live without joy.” So your question is right on target. Here are three of 12 principles. More to come later.
Some friends are getting married/having kids, and I’m not. How can we stay friends when we’re at such different stages?
What’s one of the quickest ways to kill a friendship in any stage of life? Assumptions. About anything. Assumptions mean communication is lacking, and a friendship without communication is destined to falter. Here’s what to do instead:
I’m pretty sure that applies to our children, too. Before our first baby was born, my grandma told me that the children I would bear weren’t mine – they were a precious gifts on loan from the Father. It was our primary responsibility, as parents, to help them get to heaven. Grandma’s thinking may seem a bit countercultural today. The world might have us think our primary task is to get our kids on the most prestigious teams, the most elite dance troops or into the most impressive schools.
For Catholics, making the sign of the cross is second nature. We do it upon entering and exiting a church, during Mass and at home before and after prayers. For me, growing up, it was even a custom on my dad’s side of the family to make the sign of the cross on each of my relative’s foreheads upon greeting them at a family gathering. And I have since passed on that very tradition to my own family.
I want the best for my family, so I want to take on a second job. Stacy will be home in the evenings with the kids.
She says: It's more important to spend time with the kids
We're getting by, and the family time is more important. We don't need an extra car or fancy vacations, and it’s more important that Mark spends quality time with the kids.
What do they do?
Work is an important part of our lives. But being away from your family because you’re working long hours can be as much a problem as not working enough.